So I was looking at the pump, verifying it wasn't touching anything and decided to go to the local Rv store and see if they had anything in the way of accumulators. In reading the posts in the forums (RV.net) this seemed to be the solution to the constant cycling. The only one they had was perfect! Well it was the right size, insulated mounts and looked like the box had been on the shelf a few years. Was a lill less than what Id seen online.
I added the accumulator after water pump. (you can almost see pump, bottom water line goes to accumulator, middle line is from tank, top line goes to plumbing). I also added an angle cock to the accumulator to aid in plumbing-not much room...Basically just replacing the line from pump to 1st tee that feeds bath/kitchen. I used flex lines to replace the hard plastic tubing. I think this may have helped as much with the noise transmitting all over but I'm sure the accumulator absorbs some of the noise too.
All in all -This was the most amazing upgrade...If you don't have an accumulator this is one mod/upgrade I HIGHLY recommend.